How to Use a Double-Ended Dildo

Using a double-ended dildo can be really intimidating. They tend to be enormous and thick, making themselves appear to be quite the formidable opponent. 

In reality, double-ended dildos have come a long way from two and a half feet of rubber. Whether you’re using it with a female partner, male partner, or yourself, there are many ways to use a double-ended dildo.

Harness-Compatible Double Dildos

Successfully strapping on a double-ended dildo starts with a quality harness. The harness can break or break your experience. Joque Strap-On O’Ring Harness is a fabulous entry-level choice and the absolute favorite even for experienced users. Among it’s best qualities, it’s completely adjustable and firmly secures your dildo in place. Because you can open the straps so much, inserting the dildo before securing your harness in place is a breeze. 

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The only drawback to the Joque is that it’s not the most flattering harness ever made. The straps connect around the waist and behind each leg like a jockstrap, hence the name. If that isn’t your style, pick a harness that looks like cute panties instead. The Sasha O’Ring Harness Lingerie does not disappoint with lace details and detachable garters. 

HOW TO USE YOUR DOUBLE DILDO IN A HARNESS

  1. First, straighten out the straps of your harness. If you don’t do this, you can get tangled up in the straps when you’re putting it on. 
  2. Next, insert your double-ended dildo into the harness. You can do this by pulling the dildo through the o-ring and pull through until it’s situated. The longer end slides through the o-ring, never the shorter side of the dildo. 
  3. Once the dildo is in place, you can step into the harness and raise the dildo/harness nearly into position. If you’re adding any accessories, like cock rings, add them now. 
  4. Lubricate your end and insert it. 
  5. Once in place, tighten the straps to your harness, and you’re good to go!

If you pick a quality harness like the Joque, your dildo will stay put so you can use it in any position. You can also use the harness with any compatible dildo without worrying that it will work. Panty/brief style harnesses do tend to droop a little with larger dildos, so keep that in mind when you’re making your decision.

For the double-ended dildo, you can’t go wrong with the Nexus Senior. It’s a silicone double dildo with a fantastic feel. The inserted end curves to hit the wearer in all the best spots, while the longer end is just the right size and width for penetration. 

If you enjoy girthier dildos, go with the Peacemaker. At nearly 2 inches in width, it feels great. Peacemaker also boasts Vikskin silicone that is silky and pliable on the outside with a solid core to keep its shape. 

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What’s unique about these Vixen Double Dildos is the look. It won’t take you long to notice that most double-ended dildos are not realistic dildos. These two boast realistic veining and come in flesh tones.

Strapless Double Dildos

When harnesses aren’t your favorite, and you don’t like the look of all of those straps, strapless double-ended dildos are the way to go. Without the straps of a harness or the a harness of any kind, you can feel free to take your double-dildo in the bath or shower. 

Of course, strapless double-ended dildos are harder to use than double-ended dildos made for harnesses.  

It isn’t uncommon for the dildo to slip out of the wearer mid-thrust. I’ve found greater success with using a larger bulb for the insertable part because it’s easier to grip with your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. The PC muscles are the ones that you use when you bear down for Kegels. 

Strapless dildos can be worth the trouble when you consider that your clit is a lot more accessible, and it’s incredibly easy to put in and take out. The shorter shaft also stimulates the g-spot for the wearer.

More pleasure for you and a lot of versatility, it’s a win-win.

HOW TO USE A STRAPLESS DOUBLE DILDO

  1. Insert a strapless dildo by dropping a little bit of lube on the bulb end and sliding it in slowly until it’s situated. You’ll be able to hold it in at that point.
  2. Lubricate the other end and get to it! The beauty of strapless double dildos, is they’re uncomplicated. There’s nothing to it.

When you’re getting used to it, try out an easy position like missionary. 

I also recommend trying to lay down and squeeze your legs together to keep your dildo in. When the dildo is getting ridden, it’s less likely to fall out if you’re keeping your legs together. If that seems hard, try crossing your ankles. 

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When you’re shopping for your strapless double dildo, you’ll notice that silicone is not necessarily the predominant material. Silicone might have taken over the world of sex toys, but not here. Plastic is still prevalent because more successful strapless dildos are harder than harness compatible dildos. For a high quality plastic strapless double dildo, you can’t go wrong with the Double Dipper. The small end for the wearer is big enough to hold on to with your muscles, while the long end is big enough to satisfy your partner.  

Silicone sex toy enthusiasts should try the Union Double. With a smooth feel and all of the benefits of silicone, it’s a great choice. It’s phthalate and paraben-free, easy to keep clean, and body-safe. The incredible thing about the Union Double is the ability to pick your size. Customize your experience with widths ranging from 1 to 1.5 inches. 

Strapless double dildos are commonly equipped with a small bullet vibrator. This removable vibrator can bring both the wearer and the recipient some new sensations, so give it a shot.

Masturbating with a Double-Ended Dildo

To maximize your pleasure, use a double-ended dildo while masturbating. Dual penetration is a delight with the right double-ended dildo. If you’re a woman who enjoys anal sex, double-ended dildos allow you to give yourself the pleasure you know and love. If you’ve always been curious about trying anal and want to start slow on your own, double-ended dildos are a great way to experiment.

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Anal veterans should give a nice and girthy double dildo like the Dorcel Real Double Do a try. It’s over 16 inches long, giving you plenty to work with at either end. Double Do is silicone with a smooth feel and semi-realistic. Semi-realistic tends Perfectly capable of being a conventional dildo when it’s straight, just bend the flexible material when you’re ready for (much) more.

HOW TO USE A DOUBLE DILDO FOR MASTURBATING

  1. If you have a long, straight double dildo like the Dorcel, bend, and flex your dildo to get it warmed up. New dildos, in particular, might need to be bent into shape. 
  2. For double penetration, apply lubricant to both ends of your dildo.
  3. Lay back, open your legs wide and insert the dildo. You might find it easier to insert one end at a time. Another option is to staddle your dildo. Hold the dildo in a U-shape with one hand and slowly lower yourself onto one or both ends at a time. 

Beginners can dip their toe in the water with an unconventional double-dildo like a Happy Rabbit Triple Curve

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The Happy Rabbit looks like a standard rabbit vibrator with anal beads attached. This silicone vibrator has three motors to give you maximum pleasure with a customized experience. 

HOW TO USE THE HAPPY RABBIT

  1. Put lube on all three parts of your Happy Rabbit: the ears, the shaft, and the beads. 
  2. Apply extra lubricant to yourself, your ass in particular. The slipperier you and your rabbit are, the better it’s going to feel. 
  3. Line up your rabbit and insert the shaft first, but only a little bit. 
  4. Then start inserting the beads one at a time while keeping the shaft inserted too. 
  5. Line up the bunny so the ears are on either side of your clit.
  6. Turn on the Happy Rabbit and go!

Double-ended dildos are an easy way to change it up in the bedroom. Whether it’s mutual pleasure you’re after, or a leveling up your masturbation routine, double-ended dildos will deliver. Enjoy!